It's like the author couldn't decide what kind of book this was-tense murder mystery, super sappy bodice-ripper romance, madcap comedy caper, action-adventure story, gay erotica, or legal drama, and went with all of the above with very mixed results. It's all over the place with little holding it together and some of it was very hard to swallow. So, on one level, this is very cool and totally the sort of thing I would go for, but the execution was so uneven, as was the writing and the tone. This book kind of has a bit of everything-instalove, instalust, disguises, murder, kidnapping, disputed inheritances, lookalike siblings, a sham marriage, pirates, runaway lovers, scheming underlings, cross-dressing, princes, sword fights, duels, a chase to France, wise-cracking sidekicks, amazing coincidences, a Snidely-Whiplash-style villain, and more! It's like bits of every Shakespeare comedy plot mixed together, and there are so, so many classic romance tropes here. There were some good things in it, but I was skimming by the end. Matty is also the president of ASSERT NSW the Australian Society of Sex Educators, Researchers and Therapists.I bought this years ago (despite that awful cover), and finally decided to have a look at it. Matty Silver is a Relationship Counsellor and Sex Therapist. Is it always necessary to be open and honest with your partner because YOU would feel less guilty? It is not something that he can easily incorporate into his life so he is juggling between wanting to be open and honest in his relationship versus not wanting to ruin his relationship with his wife.ĭo you think you are allowed to have secrets in a relationship? He is over six feet tall and plays rugby. He called me because he hides the fact that he cross dresses, he does it about once a month but he believes if he told his wife she would not understand and neither would his family or friends. He is married with two young children and loves his wife. I have another client who lives in the country, he works from home but his office is at the back of the property. It is my job as a therapist to normalise the situation for each individual and work with them to find out what it means to them and why it is causing difficulties in their life and relationships. For both the cross dresser and his family it is not an easy thing to deal with and it is very common to experience a sense of despair to face the reality of the situation. Some men find that cross-dressing makes them feel relaxed and helps them with stress. There are also many misconceptions about men who cross dress:ġ) They have to be gay – they usually are not!Ģ) They don't like women – they do, most men are marriedģ) They do it for sexual gratification – Although cross-dressing is a sexual fetish for some, the vast majority of men do not experience any arousal as a result of cross-dressing, for some it is the exploration of feminine self-expression.Ĥ) They always wear women's clothes – not true, most may only dress up occasionally – some men sometimes wear women's underwear under their clothes.ĥ) They can be cured – there is no cure as it is not an illness but a "state of being".Ħ) Cross-dressing should not be mixed up with being transsexual or transgender. A lot of questions and worries persist and for each person it is a different story. Later in life the issue can cause a lot of distress because often they are not sure how to cope. They feel ashamed, become secretive and try to suppress their feelings and their desire to crossdress. They soon find out that it is not accepted and are told to stop it. They discover their need to cross-dress during childhood starting out by dressing up in their sisters or their mother's clothes. I was able to explain to her what cross dressing is about.Ĭross dressers are usually heterosexual men who like to dress up in women's clothes. She could not cope and called me in total despair. When she confronted him he told her that he was too scared to tell her for fear of rejection and he thought he might just hide it from her.
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